No marriage is 100% perfect, because nobody is 100% perfect. Marriage is something you need to work at constantly because the two of you need to make adjustments and compromises all the time. However, that doesn’t mean that you need to deal with an unhappy marriage just because it’s not easy. Instead, if you’ve been regularly thinking about divorce, then maybe something is wrong that needs to be fixed, or maybe at this point it’s just not fixable. If you have found yourself thinking about divorce recently, here are a few steps to take to make you determine your final decision.
Think about why you’ve been thinking about it.
Divorce just doesn’t pop into your head for no reason. Instead, there is something that is happening or happened that makes you feel as if your marriage is not going to work any longer. If you have been thinking about divorce, start to think about why this has started to pop into your head. Does it have something to do with you, such as more stress, a recent relationship with someone else, or maybe a desire to change and move on while your partner wants to stay the same? Does it have something to do with your spouse, such as their warndering eye, their change in attitude, their lack of romance, etc.? Once you know why you’ve been thinking about divorce, you can start to determine if there’s a way to fix the situation instead of making a life-changing decision.
Talk it out.
Talking about your feelings may not be the most enjoyable conversation to have, but it’s extremely important if you really want to save your marriage. Whether you’re unhappy because of issues with yourself, or you’re unhappy because of issues with your spouse, it’s necessary that you talk it out with your spouse so that everything is out in the open. For instance, having a conversation about the reasons for unhappiness, whether it’s because you don’t like something they’re doing or you have differences of your own, will help the two of you be on the same page and work together to solve the challenges.
After your issues are out in the open, you can always seek out the help of a professional marriage counselor. These individuals are trained in helping couples work through their issues to try and salvage their marriage. However, in order for it to work, you and your spouse need to put in the effort. If one of you isn’t interested in trying, then it’s not worth the time or money you’ll spend. In addition, you need to be willing to put it all out on the table during these sessions and not hold anything back.
Talk to a legal professional.
If you have done everything you can to salvage the marriage and it still isn’t working, then you should spend some time talking to a legal professional about getting a divorce. Keep in mind that divorce is expensive and time-consuming, so it’s not something you can just be done with in a day. In addition, if you have children, it could make the situation more complicated. This doesn’t mean that divorce isn’t the right option, but it means you need to be 100% sure that this is what you want and need to move forward with your life.
Wanting a divorce is a serious decision to make, so if it’s something you’ve been thinking about, then you really need to sit down and figure out if it’s what you want to do. By trying to work through your challenges, it’s possible you and your spouse could make your marriage stronger.