Relationship in a Rut? Here Are 4 Places You Can Improve Yours Today

Successful relationships can require hard work, which isn’t a secret! There could be multiple places that your relationship is struggling or it could just be on area. Every relationship is different, so finding a one-size-fits-all solution is nearly impossible. That being said, there are some ways you can improve your relationship when you get into a rut…


Plenty of relationships have come into turmoil because of a lack of communication. This lack of communication can come from quite a few different places. One partner not being ‘present’ while the other is talking is not only disrespectful but it happens more than many people think. This could be because the other partner is intrigued with something on the TV or smartphone, or is just zoning out. Whatever the reason, it is important to communicate wants and needs in a relationship. How is your significant other supposed to give you what you want if you haven’t expressed this verbally? Let your partner know your wants and expectations in your relationship as this can clear up ambiguity.


No relationship is perfect and both parties will do things that are wrong from time to time. The way these mistakes are approached can mean the difference between the fight escalating to a breakup and the fight being over in a matter of hours/days. Taking ownership of shortcomings and mistakes is something both parties in a relationship should do. Blaming your significant other for a mistake that you have made is not only wrong but it’s also attempt to rationalize your choice. Great relationships are made by people owning up to their mistakes and shortcomings combined with a whole lot of forgiveness.


There are couples who were friends for years before they became romantically involved. Then there are the couples who became involved romantically and had to develop a friendship further down the road. Working on the friendship aspect of your relationship is quite important as your significant other is the person you spend the most time with. Going out and doing something that both of you enjoy – as understated as one fun date or as big as a luxury vacation – can rejuvenate a romantic relationship and friendship. Something as simple as going to sushi on Fridays and spending time alone together can be a great way to improve your friendship. Weekends shouldn’t be made entirely for seeing friends and family, and you should make a point to spend time alone as a couple. This helps you to work on your friendship.

Being more proactive about keeping your relationship healthy is important. Many people do not view their relationship as a living thing that needs to be taken care of or it could die. Taking this approach is sure to have both parties in the relationship striving to take care of this relationship. Do not allow a good relationship to go to waste because of lack of effort. A lack of effort in a relationship can lead to years of “what if?” questioning which is extremely unhealthy and quite depressing. Put your relationship first for once and see how big of a difference that it makes!

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